WHY IS THE NEWLY WEDDED MAN CALLED GROOM AND THE WOMAN CALLED BRIDE?


A friend of mine got tired of his WIFE just about six months after wedding. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with her; he went on to say that he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not respond immediately because I knew I must tell him the right thing, so I went home. And that is what birth this message.
Many MEN have broken up with their WIVES because they end up not being the WIFE that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task.
Nobody calls the woman WIFE on her wedding day but BRIDE, because it is the man that will GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE. That is why the man is called ‘BRIDEGROOM or GROOM’ and the word grooming has to do with PATIENTLY NURTURING, TEACHING, TENDING and HELPING someone to become what he or she should be.
It is therefore believed that a MAN that takes a WOMAN to the ALTAR of MARRIAGE is matured enough to patiently GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE. The man is not supposed to just expect the BRIDE to automatically become the WIFE, she must be groomed.
It is clear that many men have unnecessary expectations when they were getting married, they want some magic to happen to their wives, they want them to become what they have had in mind about who they want their wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her.
Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change takes TIME and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want.
So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her?
Have you given her TIME to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? God often brings People that are opposites of each other together in MARRIAGE so that they can HELP EACH OTHER in their place of weaknesses. If your WIFE is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed?
The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept People before attempting to change them. Of course, your wives are not from your backgrounds, so it will take TIME for them to adjust.
Stop trying to change her, ACCEPT her, LOVE her, TEACH her and be PATIENT with her; that is what grooming is all about.
She is going to be your WIFE but she is your BRIDE now, so GROOM her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you a hawk, she cannot fly so be PATIENT with her. I don’t believe that your MARRIAGE can’t work, be PATIENT and allow GOD to HELP you.SOME EXAMPLES OF EVIL WORDS YOU MUST NOT SAY IN MARRIAGE!*

  1. I will slap you!
  2. I will divorce you!
  3. Idiot
  4. You are hopeless!
  5. You are useless!
  6. You are stupid
  7. You are foolish
  8. You call yourself a man!
  9. I hate you!
  10. Can’t you be like Mr. X or Madam Y?
  11. You are ugly, you are a witch!
  12. This marriage will not last!
  13. I don’t think we are meant for each other!
  14. Prostitute!
  15. Bitch!
  16. I blame myself for marrying you
  17. Go to hell
  18. I will destroy you
  19. If you misbehave, i will divorce you!
  20. I don’t love you anymore!
  21. You are fat for nothing!
  22. Your breast are too small or big for my liking!
  23. You are too short!!!
  24. Your madness has started again!!!
  25. I will be the one to kill you!!!
  26. You don’t have home training!
  27. I was forced to marry you!
  28. If you dont give me a male child, i will marry a second wife!
    Abuse in its different manifestations is the most destructive tool! It leads to emotional trauma,fear and discomfort!! Its damaging and traumatising!
    å Choose to Speak life.
  29. Speak good things about your spouse e.g “I love you” you are wonderful, you look sweet, your food was good, you are my world, you look charming etc
  30. Confess positive things about your marriage.
  31. Express your love to each other verbally every day.
  32. Speak about things that you do/do not like
  33. Speak to edify.
  34. Always pray together! There is power in praying and reading together!
    LOVE IS THE GREATEST FORCE IN MARRIAGE!

5 thoughts on “WHY IS THE NEWLY WEDDED MAN CALLED GROOM AND THE WOMAN CALLED BRIDE?

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